Near the end of January, a friend of mine posted a link to a CNN article titled, 10 things you might not know about love. The article focused on research taking place at UNC Chapel Hill which led to the writing of the book “Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do, and Become” authored by Barbara Fredrickson. In this article, Fredrickson states,
“Writing this book has profoundly changed my personal view of love. I used to uphold love as that constant, steady force that all but defines my marriage. While that constant, steady force still exists, I now see our bond as a product of the many micro-moments of positivity resonance that my husband and I have shared over the years. This shakes me out of any complacency that tempts me to take our love for granted. Love is something we should re-cultivate every single day.”
The last line definitely got my attention and made me think back to my favorite marriage advice given by a friend at our wedding who said, “Never stop trying to figure out what makes your marriage work.” My wheels started spinning and with February right around the corner, I set out to start out 14 days of love challenge as a way to re-cultivate our love.
There are many ways people carry out 14 days of love in February, so I wanted to make sure we did something that not only fit our budget but also creatively fit our personalities. As you saw in a previous post on card making, Kevin & I love to create notes to others, and I thought this would be a perfect time to send each other love notes. It was super simple to use old scrapbook paper scraps, food, drinks, and some creativity to put all of these together!
Since re-cultivating love shouldn’t be strictly reserved for significant others, I knew I needed to make those around me also feel the love on this holiday. On February 14th, my classmates and I were set to have three classes over the span of 10:15am until 9:30pm, which meant a long day on campus far away from the traditional lovey emotions and fancy dinners associated with Valentine’s Day. I wanted to bring a smile to the faces of my classmates despite the future of long lectures that awaited us and decided to give out flowers with personal notes which was a special tradition with my old athletic training classmates on Valentine’s day. I left them on each person’s desk as a surprise when they came to class that morning.
A few years ago, Kevin and I decided to celebrate Valentine’s Day with a evening at a local bowling alley. We had such a great time together that we vowed to make it a tradition (personal traditions between two people are quite the unique bond). We like the thought of bowling for Valentine’s Day because it gives the day a more informal and less cliche approach, kind of takes the seriousness out of it without taking the fun out. While it still can be a great date just for two, OR can include many!
Because I had class all day on actual Valentine’s day (I know, I know, I’ve mentioned this 1423 times already), we had our date night the following night and enjoyed 2 hours of bowling with wonderful memories! Kevin won all the games this year, but there’s always 2014!
How will you re-cultivate love with those in your life?